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fortress of minerva"I am daily making myself what I am" May 14 Agdam Bagdam TigdamREAD THIS POST AT YOUR OWN RISK. THESE ARE MY STRAY MUSINGS...OPERATIVE WORD BEING STRAY!
"Agdam Bagdam Tigdam "Heard this term on the FM the other day in some context and realised that this is just the phrase I would like to use to describe life. One of my friend often quotes that "Just when you have found the answer life changes the question". And that is so apt. When we pray for something and want to hold on to something is that always good for us or imperative to our happiness! We want to hold on to a job and hope we will not lose it...but at times the fact is there are much better opportunities that are waiting to be explored and utilised. When a relationship turns sour we continue to hold on to it.....but at times it is better to let go of the relationship to relieve the pain that both the people are going thru by dragging the relationship.
There are times we get terribly upset at events which actually prove to be beneficial in the long run. There are times when people who used to trust us and understand us suddenly stop understanding or trusting us and there are times people who are just acquaintances stand by us unknowingly and make us smile. One day a friend trusts u with his/ her life and in the next six months he/ she just can't stand you. One day we get an award and in the next six months the same boss wants us to leave the organisation. I mean there is no certainty in life about anything and anybody (except parents). In such dynamic circumstances how does one retain sanity!
Well there are n number of ways that one can find on the net, in the self help and philosophy books and in the cabins of psychoanalysts and counsellors. But it all boils down to the individual. Taking responsibility for the situation, accepting the situation, remembering that "this too shall pass" and remembering and showing gratitude for all those small and big incidents that made us happy. By remembering that these people and these jobs have helped us to sail through difficult times at one point in time or other. I know it is difficult and that is exactly why am rambling on my space....Thank God for small mercies or rather Thank Bill Gates for msn space! Life is difficult at times but doesn't mean we stop living. Similarly we get hurt but does not mean we stop trusting!
Rishtey jodenge to dard hoga to kya dard ke dar se rishtey jodna chhod denge..... aise to fir jeena hi chhod denge
aur fir kehte hain na ke "mar ke bhi chain na mila to kahan jayenge" April 29 Ki eshe jay!Oi je dekhun Shari shari boshe royeche Opekkhaye nijer nijer bhaggyer Nana ronger nana ruper
khodder ra eshe porokh kore nebe dekhbe chokchoke chamra pochhondoshoi rong moner moton roop reasonable daam tarpor niye jabe fire jabe din kintu tate ki eshe jaye!
Achcha etokhon dhore kar kotha bolchi Janen? Jutor Othoba meyeder Ki eshe jaye! Koto tuku parthokko
Kal giyechilam Reebok er dokane Ekta juto dekhlam Daam tin hajar taka
Kal kagoje porlam Ek baba ma tar meye ke beche diyeche Daam ek bosta chaal
Konta tahole dami bolun to! Juto na meye? Tate amar aapnar Ki eshe jaye!
Trafficking in Girls and Women The problem of trafficking in women for the purpose of prostitution was already known in public at the end of the 19th Century. According to UN reports, girls and women from South and South-East Asia (Burma, China, Cambodia, Laos, Nepal, Taiwan, Thailand, Vietnam), East Europe (the Baltic, Ukraine) and Latin America (Brazil) are particularly at risk today. The actual number of instances is difficult to estimate however. According to local NGO's, between 200,000 and 2 million women work as prostitutes in Thailand alone. The women are promised a well-paid job in another country. Their passports are taken away from when they cross the border and they are forced to work in brothels. They are forced to live and work in conditions similar to slaves, as a result of their debt to the traders who have taken over the costs for transport and all incidentals. The social stigmatisation, the violence and the foreign country increases the dependence of the victims. The traditional son preference, poverty, or simply trust leads the parents to sell their daughters to trader rings. Frequently, however, girls and women are forcibly kidnapped. Trafficking in women is a growing market, comparable in the meantime with the volumes traded in drugs and weapons. This market is fed by the racist and power fantasies of western men who spend their money on possessing sexually and/or permanently available girls and women, and on the similar needs of men in each of the countries. The low social status of the women, the discrimination against the divorced, raped or widowed, as well as their poor general circumstances life (hardly any chance or finding work or getting an education), that has become even worse as a consequence of socio-economic changes in the last few years, makes a contribution to this business so scornful of human life. What is Being Done Against Trafficking in Women? Since 1904, international agreements on fighting trafficking in women exist, such as the International Agreement on Securing Effective Protection against the Trafficking of Girls of 18th May 1904 (modified in 1949). The International Agreement on Fighting the Trafficking of Girls of 4th May 1910 obliges its member states (status in 1989: 71 signing states) to make the seduction of female minors into prostitution or forced prostitution in their countries an offence against the law. An Agreement on the Suppression of Trafficking Mature Women of 1933 (modified in 1949) also exists. Local laws to suppress prostitution are frequently and mainly oriented towards the victims, who are persecuted as illegal immigrants or illegal prostitutes, whereas the pimp is often set free after paying bail and bribing the authorities. In many EU countries a woman can only turn to the courts for help if she possesses a residents permit. Even if she is a witness in a trail, for instance, to give evidence against trafficking rings, she is threatened with extradition to her own country. Which places the women under the complete control of their pimps; criminal proceedings against traffickers are normally discontinued due to lack of evidence.
[Author: Dorette Wesemann, Edited by: Ragnar Müller]
February 23 Busy without business!There are periods in life when there is nothing extraordinary happening but small miniscule and probably inconspicuous thhings continue to happen which may have disastrous or amazing effect on your life. Right now my life is going through the same phase. On the face of it nothing worth mentioning is taking place that I can be euphoric or depressed. Yet everyday some inconspicuous things are taking place over which I absolutely have no control. Certain moments certain friendships tend to slip out of my life and certain things and achievements tend to slip in. I do not how to react! Its a very phase wherein everything is happening at a very very slow pace but I can't help but notice them. For a person like me who is always on extremes and lacks patience completely, these phases bring about immense restlessness and anxiety because its a process and one can do nothing but wait and watch. Trying to make this waiting period by meeting a lot of new people, touching base with old friends, reading, watching movies.......but whatever I do the restlessness remains....Hope to see some positive results very soon...
August 13 Chhupa lo dil mein....
chhupaa lo yun dil mein pyaar meraa ke jaise mandir mein lau diye kee tum apane charanon mein rakh lo mujh ko tumhaare charanon ka phool hoon main main sar jhukaye khadee hoon preetam ke jaise mandir mein lau diye kee ye sach hain jeenaa thaa paap tum bin ye paap maine kiyaa hain ab tak magar thee man mein chhavi tumhari ke jaise mandir mein lau diye kee fir aag birahaa kee mat lagana ke jal ke main raakh ho chukee hoon ye raakh maathe par maine rakh lee ke jaise mandir mein lau diye kee Another of my all time favourite songs- it depicts love in its purest form. Not very fond of the video though. I mean legendary actors but before watching the video I somehow perceived it in black and white more on the lines of 'waqt ne kiya' (That reminds me got to upload that as well in sometime) Coming back to this one- It is an OST from 'Mamta' (The movie is a remake of Bangla movie and if I am not wrong with Suchitra Sen in the same role. Vikas Roy essayed the character that Ashok Kumar essays in the hindi version) The amazing lyrics are by Majrooh Sahab and the music has been composed by Roshan. No prizes for guessing the singers- Lata Mangeshkar and Hemant Kumar.
July 20 Liar Liar!Vishwamitra and Kanya are best of friends. In case you are thinking that they belong to the Satyug aur Dwapar yug... you are completely mistaken! They are very much a part of this era.......as Indian citizens are still wondering which proved to be the bigger evil of the UPA Govt- the nuclear deal or the inflation!...as Mayawati is trying to get as many M.Ps as possible to topple the UPA Govt and as UPA is trying its best to save it's face. In a nutshell, they continue to lead their lives right now as I type in my stray musings.
Anyways coming back to Viswamitra (whom I will refer to as V as the name is too long to type repeatedly) and Kanya (whom I will refer to as K cos am referring to her friend by his initial). They share such an amazing bond that one starts the sentence the other finishes it, one thinks of a song, the other sings it. They have common interests- rains, travelling, books, music, nature. And complimentary differences- one likes the freshness of the sunrise and the other enjoys the serenity of sunset. One remembers the music, the other remembers lyrics, One is a magician in Math while the other has a way with words. Some common traits as well- ingenious, creative,emotional,ethical.
Just a note of caution who are thinking that this is a typical boy and girl being "friends" and then falling in love.....Sorry to disappoint you guys... they are not in love nor will they fall in love and neither are they "just friends". In fact they are best of friends and it is a completely platonic friendship.
Coming back to 'V' and 'K'...My musings are actually going stray.....phew....
Needless to say their lives are open boooks to each other. An absolute honest to God, die for each other kind of friendship. However, it's not that they never argue or do not have differences. They do have arguments and debates which are resolved on the basis of honest and open discussions. Both of them take a pride in the fact that this is one of those rare frndships which is based on understanding and honesty and some special connection probably from some other life.
But one day their faith is put to test. Though the reason is a very minor one yet it is enough to make them introspect. 'V' is out with a friend when 'K' calls up. She is not aware of the fact that 'V' is out with a friend. Now at that point in time 'V' was having a serious discussion with his friend. 'K' senses something is wrong with her dear friend and starts asking questions like "where are you? what are you doing? why do you not seem to be in your elements? Is something wrong?". Now happens something that had never happened in their friendship before. 'V' lies to 'K' or rather hides the fact that he is out with another friend and tells 'K' that he will call her back. 'K' thought he is probably not in a good mood and wants to be alone and keeps asking him to talk to her, feeling extremely concerned. Then 'V' says that he has to make some calls and he will get back to her. 'K' feels a little hurt knowing that he would rather speak to others in this state of mind that speak to her. After sometime 'V' calls up 'K' and tells her the truth and 'K' feels very let down and gets very sad. She tells him that he could have told this to her at that time and she would not have pestered her. 'V' apologises but 'K' still can't get over it. Last that I know of them they are still not on proper talking terms. 'K' is still very hurt and is trying to appear very cold to 'V'. Needless to say that 'V' is also feeling bad as he unneccesarily lied to his best friend.
This incident made me introspect as well and raised a question that why do we need to lie to people we love and care for so much without any reason! Some may feel that 'V' should not have lied to his best buddy no matter what happened. However, I feel that in the process of getting and showing concern to our dear ones we at times unintentionally trespass. We forget what our limits are and also that we need to give enough space to everyone no matter how close they are to us. So, I feel that in a way 'K' made 'V' lie . She should have stopped pestering him. Also she must have been encroaching into his space so badly that 'V' bugged up by her relentless questions and calls got irate and prevaricated. In the first place we may feel that it's 'V's fault that he lied to his best friend but isn't 'K' equally responsible for this mendacity!
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